At first, I really hated it because I had fallen for her and only got to see her on weekends (some weeks not at all). After dating for a few months, we had a discussion about whether or not we wanted to continue the relationship. We were both to the point where it was becoming frustrating not being able to see each other when we wanted. Let’s face it – we all have our sexual needs! But we both decided we were going to work hard to make it work. Here was our plan to make it work. Before using this plan, you need to first decide if she’s worth it…
Take turns going to see each other
A relationship should always be 50/50. You go see her one weekend and then she comes to see you the next weekend. It becomes a hassle and costly to travel 200+ miles every week to visit someone. That’s why you should split it up. This isn’t always going to work out because there will be weeks either you or her are unable to leave for various reasons (work, car is in the shop, plans with friends, etc.). The way my girlfriend and I kept it fair and square was to make up for it by going there/her coming to see me 2 weeks in a row after.
Take advantage of Skype, text messaging, etc. during the week
Talking on the phone and texting isn’t the same as physically being with someone. But it’s better than nothing. My favorite way of connecting while she wasn’t here was Skype or FaceTime. It’s still not the same as being able to touch her, but at least I got to see her and she got to see me. I still tried to give her plenty of space so I didn’t crowd her. I would send a few texts everyday and Skype with her 2-3 times per week for an hour or so.
Eventually you have to decide when to move closer to each other
Long distance relationships only last for so long. Eventually you have to move closer to each other or the relationship will fade. After being together for 4-5 months, it’s time to discuss with each other future plans. One of you is going to have to make the sacrifice to move to the same town. It’s never easy for anyone to just pack and move, but it will eventually need to happen if you plan on establishing a long-term relationship with her.