The Case For Being Different When Using Online Personals Dating Sites
Here is the basic online dating process for men:
- Find a cutie, send her an email
- That email, unless creative, gets lost among the other 100 unopened emails she has in her inbox
- If the email does catch her attention, she will immediately glance over your profile to find out more info on you
- If she’s unhappy with the quality of your profile and/or “about me”, she won’t respond to your email even if it’s brilliant
There really is no other way to meet women online. So, as you can see, it’s imperative to master the dating profile and emailing processes. If not, don’t expect any attention from women. Here’s the thing – you have to give a woman a reason to talk to you. This is completely on you. If you don’t receive many responses to your messages, you have no one but yourself to blame. Let’s take a look at the average male on dating sites…
PROFILE DESCRIPTION: Nothing interesting to read. Either no attempts at humor or failed attempts. Simply lists his interests (i.e. “I like bowling, hiking, golfing, playing Scrabble, and masturbating). All it tells her is he lacks creativity and is probably very boring.
PROFILE PICTURE: Completely unattractive picture even if he’s an attractive guy. Pictures are either too dark, too revealing (your abs aren’t as sexy as you think), or too immature (hat on backwards, bro…really?).
EMAIL: Cheesy or unoriginal subject line (“Hey what’s up?”). Email message is nothing more than a “you’re gorgeous” or “I want to ram my 12-inch pecker into your vajayjay”. She’s thinking, “if only I had a nickel for every email just like this I’ve received in the past hour…”
Imagine you created a profile and sent emails exactly as described above. Why would you expect many responses from women? You’re not different than 90% of the guys on online personals websites. Most women can’t possibly find time in their day to respond to every message they receive. So they pick and choose based on the emails that look the most appealing. That’s assuming your profile wasn’t a turn off.
So what is the solution? To stand out. That doesn’t mean to send her death threats and create a profile that portrays you as a serial killer. Yes, those would definitely make you stand out. But we want you to make your profiles, emails, and overall online dating activities stand out in a positive way. Your “game” should resemble that of a funny, interesting, sexy, and MATURE person. Yes, we capitalized MATURE for a reason – because there isn’t a lot of maturity from men on dating sites. Coincidentally, there isn’t a lot of sex being had by men online. Hmm…