Everyone who has tried online personals sites would agree that creating the personal profile posts the greatest challenge. Sure, you’re excited to let potential dates know who you are, what you do and what your interests are, but sometimes you get carried away that you give information about you that is better left discussed once you go out with your date. If you’ve tried online personals sites lately and wonder why you’re not getting as many respondents, maybe you’re scaring them away with your profile clichés’. Clichés are what makes most profiles “safe” – instead of being bold and different you end up being like the rest of “them”. Instead, create a “fun” image in your profile without “telling too much”. The thing is, you can portray a mysterious persona and still be authentic. In fact, men that women find mysterious are most attractive to them. The majority of men in online personals sites fails in this department because they stuff their profiles with information like the filling out a form in a job interview. Who’s interested to know that you’re an executive manager of ABC Company for more than 5 years? In other words, you are not applying for a job here; you’re simply describing yourself with interesting facts to get the girls to like you enough to hook up with you. If you agree that this is one area in your online personals ad that you need help with, consider these suggestions:
First, answer the question “who doesn’t?”
This refers to your attempt to write “I love having fun”, “I enjoy laughing a lot” or “I try to enjoy life as much as I could” . . . Instead of getting on with it, why not ask yourself first “who doesn’t?”. These statements are pathetically generic and do not show any sign of uniqueness in you. Why not take it a notch higher by describing what makes you laugh, or what are the adventures you already had that makes you value life. When you try to be specific, there’s a great chance that someone out there with the exact same interest as yours will most likely hook up with you. As for you, it’s good; you instantly get to meet like-minded people.
Second, answer the question “who does?”
When you say “I don’t want a drama queen”, will that guarantee that the 10 respondents to that ad isn’t one of them. I mean, who doesn’t want a liar, a player, a cheater, a lunatic? Or better yet, who for the life of them admit to these? Besides, it’s no use putting there “I don’t want a heart breaker” or “I don’t want a gold-digger” – they instantly mean 2 things to others who read your profile, (1) that you’ve had one too many of these dates with super lame personality and that you’re telling the world you’re such a loser for dating these kinds of people, and (2) you think too highly of yourself, too perfect or too picky. Well, again, thank you for scaring the girls away. Besides thinking about it, if what you had before were cheaters, liars, drama queens and heart breakers – who do you think were their common denominator? Isn’t it you? So, just open yourself up and prepare to meet different kinds of people.
Keep it real, especially with the “adventures”
Some men think that beefing up their profile with all the right kind of adventure will make the girls interested right away. Unless it’s who you really are then go right ahead. But a lot of men simply want to impress the girls by indicating in their profile that they do rock climbing or extreme sports when the truth is, these are dreams that they want to fulfill some day. Sure, being an adventurous seems all encompassing of you are being very masculine and strong; but you have to be careful too as girls might expect too much. You sure don’t want to put on a show that’s hard to keep up with, would you?
Keep it real with pictures too
Who isn’t guilty of putting up a photo that is at least 10 years younger than you? Where is your credibility in that? Surely this doesn’t mean you’re insecure of yourself and can’t show that double chin or sagging facial skin. But hey, sometimes it’s how honestly you portray yourself that gets the girls. After all if someone contacts you despite those raccoon eyes, then you’ll be pleased to know that she’s accepted you for who you show you are.
Online personals sites are good venues to meet girls for both fun and romance. Once you’ve posted your profile you look forward to meeting the ones whose interests are the same as yours. But the first thing that tells about who you are is your profile that is created by you! So unless you pay attention to how to properly do this then might as well expect an empty Inbox.