You’re wearing your favorite clothes; you put on some nice make up and carefully fixed your hair for your date. Then you suddenly realize something, you may be physically prepared for your date but are you mentally prepared as well? Some people may overlook the fact that being mentally prepared for a date is very important. Even though you dress to impress, but if you don’t have the proper mentality, the worst case scenario is you may have second thoughts on your date and you may either back out or you don’t know what to do during your date. That’s where anxiety, nervousness and stress start to come into play.
In order for you to be mentally prepared for your date, here are 3 mental exercises to pump yourself up:
Be confident on how you look inside and out
This will help you to avoid being conscious of what to wear or if your date will like your personality. Furthermore, if you believe that you look good in what you wear, you will be comfortable in it, making it easier for you to interact with your date. Just keep in mind to never over dress. Keep it simple, and make sure that you can express yourself with the way you dress. You are free to dress as you please, but never forget to dress appropriately and decent.
If you are confident with your personality and you know that you have the right social skills for your date, then you will never have the worry on pretending to be someone you’re not. In order to avoid being nervous and rejected on your date, it is best to just be yourself and see if you have something in common with your date.
Think of the positive side of going on a date
If you always convince yourself that your date will not turn out well, then it never will. Envision yourself having a good time — whether it’s about the food, the music, the people around you, or the conversation you are having with your date – all good things that will help keep a positive mind.
Think of your date as a new adventure; you don’t have any idea on what you are going to expect. You’ll have the chance of meeting someone new where your social skills will be put to a test. You’ll have the chance to learn something new from your date, however it turns out, you know that they will make be a better person for your “next” date.
Self-talk on why you are going on a date
Remind yourself the reasons why are you are going out with someone you barely know. Self-talk will let you say “I am going out on a date because I want to meet someone I can love” or “I am going out on a date because I want to meet new people no matter how this turns out”. If you are having negative thoughts about your date, try saying to yourself “it’s unfair to think badly of him and pass judgment right away; I barely know the guy” or “I will not be judgmental of this guy and will make him feel comfortable by not making any rude remarks”. No matter what the reason is, it is important to remind yourself why you accepted the date in the first place. Self-talk helps remove any doubts to yourself which can affect the outcome of your date.
There is nothing wrong in going out on a date and meeting someone new. Going on a date has its fair share of accomplishments and experiences, which can help you improve as a person. That is why you need to keep an open mind. If you keep feeling like backing out on your date, then you will miss out on one of life’s best experiences. You can never discount the fact the best relationships start out with a date.
If you keep saying that you’ll go out on a date once you’re ready, the news is, you can never be 100% ready. This is because dates are so unpredictable and that’s what makes it exciting and fun. Surely, you can make a good laugh about it no matter how badly it turned out, so why stress yourself about it? Lower your expectation so that if it really didn’t turn out as you planned you’d be less disappointed. Besides, you can’t go on raising your bar of expectation when you yourself aren’t that confident that you’ll turn out to be the perfect date for him. So chill, just go out and have fun!