When face-to-face conversation is not possible, we resort to sending text messages (also known as SMS) in order to communicate with the ones we care about. Mobile telephones have become a necessity as we keep up with the modern, technological times. For newbie daters, proper SMS message decorum has to be followed to maintain a steady relationship. Here are some of those texting rules that you can take note of:
Texting is just an alternative to face-to-face or voice conversations
It is best to keep your text messages brief. Avoid sending the other person a very lengthy “what did I do the whole day?” text in one message. Leave something to talk about over the phone or in person. Also, as texting is an informal means of communication, avoid by all means sending formal invitations or dumping your boyfriend or girlfriend via SMS, as it is very, very rude to do so.
Avoid using all caps in your text messages
As all netizens know, using all caps in your text messages is equivalent to shouting. Not all people wanted to be shouted at, more so the people you care for and about (the person you are dating is definitely one of them). Even if you want to catch your girlfriend or boyfriend’s attention, shouting (hence using all caps in your messages) should never be an option. It is not polite to shout at anyone, and using all caps in your text messages imbibe that impression. There are exceptions, though. It is appropriate to use all caps when it is warranted, like subject headings or acronyms. Other than that, the use of all caps should never ever be considered.
Be mindful of your date’s schedule
Do not think that just because you are awake or not busy means that he is, too. Do not send mass or flood messages just because he does not reply. As much as you are worried about the other person, flooding his Inbox will not do you any good. If he cares for you, he will reply to your messages if he is able to do so. Be patient and wait for him to reply. On the other hand, if you are the one who received the text and you are busy to reply, send him a short message to let him know that you are busy and will not be able to respond right away, and will get back to him as soon as you are able to. This is the right and a polite way to let him know that you acknowledge his SMS and that you have every intention of getting back to him once you are no longer busy.
Do not send one-word answers
Even if his message is answerable by a mere yes or no, there is nothing wrong with sending him a message that contains a few more words than a simple yes or no. this will give him the impression that he is important as you are taking the extra effort and time just for him. Also, there is nothing fun about receiving a curt “K” or LOL, especially after sending him a somewhat long message. It gives you the impression that your date is not that interested in you. Or maybe he is, then you should take it is a sign for you to ditch him.
Avoid sending SMS while (he is) driving
This is especially after he just drops you off after your date. Texting while driving is more dangerous than talking while driving, as your concentration should be on the keypad in order to send a text message. If you care about the person you are dating, wait until he reaches home to let him know that you enjoyed the night with him.
If your message is urgent, know when to call instead
If you are about to cancel your date, avoid sending a text message and call him instead. Those and other important messages are meant to be said over the phone and not thru SMS.
Following these proper SMS etiquette, maintaining a steady relationship with your date will be a breeze. It is always proper to be courteous and polite to everyone you talk to, no matter how long you have known a person for.