Verifying the identity of someone that you just met, especially online, should be a part of everyone’s to-do list before agreeing to go anywhere with that person. You may never know if that 20-something investment banker, Channing Tatum-lookalike you met at an online dating site is actually a 50-something, unemployed serial rapist who is on the loose and on the lookout for his next prey if you are not too careful. We can never be too cautious if our safety is on the line.
Luckily, we no longer live in an era where public records are in paper form and very hard to access (unless you are legally authorized to do so). With the advent of computers and the Internet, public records are now in electronic form and some are free and readily accessible for your perusal. Also, the birth of the many social networking sites paved the way for people to find out more about their dates using the World Wide Web.
Here are some of the helpful sites that you can go to in order to check your prospective date’s identity:
Facebook: where (almost) everyone is connected
On April 26, 2013, there are approximately 979,645,680 Facebook users around the world, as provided for in www.checkfacebook.com. Almost everyone who has a computer and has Internet access probably has a Facebook account. This site is a very useful tool in catching up with your long-lost friends and at the same time checking your mutual friends for any information about the person that you are about to go out on a date with.
You can choose to link your Facebook account when signing up for some online dating sites, which will enable them to access your existing data, which will save you the time and the trouble of filling out your personal information on their site. Consequently, linking your Facebook account with these online dating sites will show whether you have mutual friends with other users in their database. In this manner, you can be assured (to some extent) that the person you are exchanging messages to actually exist.
Stalk him through his place of work (or school)
To know whether or not this guy is telling the truth about his workplace is by sending him a message through his work e-mail. If he has provided you with the name of the company he is working for, chances are his work e-mail is the combination of his first and last name (sometimes separated by a period) + his company domain name (for example: email@example.com). If he is indeed working for the company, the e-mail will be sent as usual. If he does not, then the email will bounce back. Do not be frustrated on your first try. Be creative because his real work e-mail address might be a combination of other things aside from his full name (it could be his initials). But you do not want your potential boyfriend to run off scared with your stalking habits, do you? The e-mail has to be sent anonymously, for you not to get caught.
Alternatively, you can search for someone through his alma mater. Web sites such as DateMySchool ensures that you are talking to verified alums or students of a particular school, making their existence tangible. Also, you can just type in his name plus the name of his school in search engines such as Google and his previous school pictures, awards, and pages might be pulled up.
Use people search engines
Web sites such as 123people and Pipl will come very handy when you want to search for social networking sites and other web pages that are linked to your guy’s name. You can take advantage of their search engine database even without signing up, but for added features, signing up may be required. You can specify the location of the person you want to see to refine your search, or choose “World” for global and more general searches.