As the popular adage goes, “Nobody’s perfect”. This is most certainly true. In the world of online dating where parties do not see each other face to face (at first), they think that perhaps creating an almost perfect version of oneself (albeit untrue) is alright and would not hurt anyone. However, the hard part is once you are able to find someone in the online dating site who you think is “The One”. Is it too late to retract the lies you said back when you first met, or do you think that you will be forgiven easily once your lies are exposed?
Why people lie on online dating sites?
Let us face it: there is one or two (or more) things about yourself that you wish you could change or could get better. Nobody is going to judge you by thinking this way. These inadequacies become more noticeable especially when people around you are hooking up or getting hitched while you stay dateless and single. You then resort to trying online dating sites in the hopes of meeting someone who will love you for you. But seeing those profile pictures of users who look like models or actors or actresses, your low self-esteem will take over and you will be tempted to tweak some information about yourself to get noticed.
Why do people lie on online dating sites? The answer is pretty simple: it is because of insecurities and low self-esteem kicking in every time they see someone who they think is prettier or sexier. They are convinced that the pretty and the sexy get all the dates. But being a little less than pretty (as dictated by fashion magazines or television and/or movies) or being ten pounds heavier from being sexy, you will lie about these bits of information about yourself in order to join the bandwagon. The majority of those who lie will justify their acts and say that the other person will not know the difference because of the barrier of being online, thus seeing their actual appearance is close to impossible.
What are the common lies told in online dating sites?
Males will claim to be taller, and leaner, have a high-paying job, and know celebrities; women will claim to be thinner, younger, and taller, have a bigger cup size, working for a fabulous company, and know celebrities. These lies will be coupled with a much unrepresented profile photo of a random person you filched from the Internet to match “your” description online. Or to make things a little bit closer to the truth, you will post a younger, thinner photo of you taken eons ago and hopes that it will pass as your real, recent self.
Is it OK to lie a LITTLE on your online personals profile?
My answer would definitely be a resounding no. Lying about your online personals profile will not get you anywhere, no matter how little or harmless you think those lies were. You may think that you are not hurting others with the lies you create on your online dating profile, but it would certainly sabotage your chances of a happy ever after once you find that person who you think is your perfect match. And why is it a big problem to lie on your online profile? The answer is a no-brainer. You would have to meet the person you met online eventually, and once he sees you, it would only take him a few seconds to spot something amiss. Getting a second date may no longer be possible once your cover is blown.
Some people will say that their great personality will make up for the poor excuse of having to lie about your online profile. If this is true, then you do not have to lie at all. Not all people who are trying to score dates in online dating sites are after the most beautiful or the sexiest. More often than not, they look for someone who they can connect with emotionally and cerebrally, and physical attributes just come in second.