Is It Important To Consult Your Friends Before Entering Into A Relationship From A Personals Website
Your friends have been with you for a longer period than all of your boyfriends put together. You share everything together, and you have got each other’s back. So to answer this question, yes, it is absolutely important to consult your friends before entering into a relationship, more so someone from a personal website. This is not to let them take complete control of your love life, but simply because they are your friends. Entering a relationship with someone from a personal website may still be considered by some as unconventional, but nevertheless is starting to get the recognition and approval of many. It is not a crime to form a relationship with someone online, as it is just like any avenue for meeting people, only high tech. Do not ever feel ashamed to inform your friends about this new relationship, and who knows, they might tell you about their own relationship from an online dating site, too.
Also, consulting your friends before entering into a relationship with someone you met online has its perks and advantages. Here are three of the many reasons why it is the case:
Your friends can do the “background checking” of your prospective boyfriend for you
You what they say, that everybody knows everybody? This adage could prove true especially when you want to check someone out. Your friends might know his friends (or friends of his friends, or friends of his friends of his friends…well, you get the picture) who might give you an idea if he is really a Prince Charming or an ogre. Or they could even go to the extent of trying to pose as a woman who will claim to like your guy to test how faithful he is and could be to you (with your permission, of course). This approach will save you the trouble (and wads of tissue) of having to trust someone with your heart to, only to find out that he is a total dud.
Love is blind. But your friends aren’t
The best way to put this to a test is to have a group date– you and your beau, your friends and their significant others. A group date is harmless enough since your guy will be with the presence of his same species, making him feel a little less tense and more like himself, yet strategic enough for your friends to see how he is towards you and how he is in the presence of your friends. Being a third-party entity in your relationship, your friends may be able to see things that you fail to see because you are in love. Under their watchful (albeit discreetly) eyes, they would be able to check your boyfriend out and tell you their feedback afterwards. And it will be their pleasure to do it for you, and not because you want them to. For sure you have the same thing for them back when they needed you, and they are merely returning the favor.
Your safety is their prime concern
Aside from your happiness, your friends would also want to look out for your safety, which is why it is a great idea to consult them before entering into a relationship with someone who you met on a personal website. Since this guy is a complete stranger to them (and to some extent, to you), they will obviously want to keep track of your relationship progress with this guy. This is especially true when you are meeting your boyfriend in person for the first time. It would be wise in this instance to let your friends know where you are going (with a fully charged mobile phone at all times) so that they know where or how to reach you just in case something happens to you. It is not that you do not trust this person, but you can never be too sure. Series of rape cases and murders are always on the news, and that their perpetrators are those whom they met for the first time. If your guy really likes you, he will understand the reason behind your (and your friends’) actions. He may have a sister or some girl’s relatives that he would want to protect in the same manner.