One year is over since you met with your lover and it is clear that all aspects of your relationship are moving in the desired direction. You now feel like your relationship should take the next step – marriage. There is nothing that hurts than staying in a relationship for years only to realize that your lover has never been serious about making you his/her better half. It has always been argued that the most challenging task in dating is to decode a partner’s true intentions.
How can you tell that your lover is up for marriage?
1. The lover will always respect you
If you are in love with a person who values your presence in his/her life, respect should be the key pillar in your relationship. A lover should be courteous and careful enough not to hit your sentiments. Even if he/she unintentionally hurts you, then he/she should be willing to apologize. Respect takes many forms and different people have different mechanisms of evaluating respect. For instance, a respectful person should be willing to inquire about your condition every now and then.
2. You stand the test of time and distance
The initial 6 months of online dating is basically the attraction phase. Everyone who is serious and crazy about the relationship after the first six months will portray that he/she intends to take the relationship to greater heights. If by chance, issues like distance becomes a barrier and he/she is still into you have every reason to believe that you will get married. If a person is genuinely in love with you, the desire will never fade no matter what the situation is. The lover will always look forward to seeing you each day.
3. Your lover will talk and plan about the future with you
You met online and now you have become great friends. Perhaps you have spent a significant period of time and it is now a high time that you plan for your future. If you want to tell if your lover is up for great thing with you, he/she will always be open to you about the future. If you have never heard your lover talk about your future in your presence, then you have every reason to get worried. You should plan your exit from that relationship since it shows that it is not destined to last and achieve great things.
4. Your lover is proud of you and is willing to introduce you to friends
A serious person is always proud of you. He/she will love to associate with you. If you are still chatting and communicating online, the lover will be willing to introduce you to other friends because there is nothing to fear if you are serious with somebody. However, by mentioning “to be introduced”, it means that you should be introduced as a lover and not as just a friend. According to how your lover will talk about you, you will be able to conclude if he/she is seriously in love with you.
5. The lover is willing to share personal information and experiences in life with you
This doesn’t mean that you should expect your lover to share everything with you. Of course there is vital information that you should never expect to be shared with you e.g. the pin number to bank accounts, passwords to crucial sites like email. Personal information may mean where your lover lives, works and his past life. You may also get the privilege of knowing your lover’s goals, aspirations and hobbies. Such information will definitely help you to tell the type of person you are dating.
6. The lover will always want to know you in deeper levels
Nobody wants to marry a person whom he/she doesn’t completely know. If your lover asks about your aspirations and dreams, that sheds hope of you becoming his/her marriage partner. Has your lover ever asked about your family i.e. your parents and siblings? If yes, then that is a clear indication that the lover wants to establish a permanent relationship with you.
7. Your lover will always talk about you
If he/she loves you, then the good things in you will cover most of your discussions. The lover will be more than willing to say all the good things in you.
The bottom line
There are a thousand and one ways that can be used to tell if a lover is up for marriage. This list is never comprehensive. It has captured the basic indicators. Of course there are other indicators themselves as you progress in your relationship. All I can assure you is that provided that you are attentive and conservative, you are bound to tell if your lover is serious and that he/she wants to marry you.