So you’ve taken the plunge and joined an online dating site, congratulations! There are many opportunities to find love online, despite common belief the men are not all losers. However, there are going to be a few men who are there for the wrong reasons and lie in order to secure a date with a woman. Don’t be alarmed, there are some very easy things that you can look for in order to see if he is lying to you online.
If he seems too good to be true, he probably is
Sure, it’s possible that the guy you are talking to is a millionaire doctor who has five homes, seven luxury cars and looks like Ian Somerhalder – it’s possible but not likely! If the things he is telling you sound too good to be true, it is likely that they are. Many people see the internet as a way to create a character, they are hiding behind a screen so they can become whoever they want to become. Trust your own instincts about whether things seem “off” with him, is he trying way too hard to impress you? Those who have the constant need to reassure the person that they are talking about how awesome they are, more often than not have something to hide. Being natural online is the best way to meet your soul mate, if you don’t think he is being natural and honest with you – meeting him for a date might be a decision that you will grow to regret. If you think you are meeting a rich doctor and turn up only to be greeted by a bin man, you will get quite a shock. Not that there is anything wrong with being a bin collector but if he is lying on this stage, think how bad he will be later on in the relationship.
His information does not add up
If he keeps giving you lot’s of information that seems inconsistent somehow, it is probably because he is lying. After all, who doesn’t know the details of their own life clearly enough to tell the same details more than once? The good thing about this is that because the internet is such a wide world of information, you can do a little research on him to find out if he is who he says he is. You can check his details on the dating site, the information that he is giving you, by looking for him on Facebook and a simple Google search. If he is telling you that he is single and you manage to find out that he isn’t, he should be kicked to the curb without being given a second thought. The trouble with lying online is that it is so easy to be caught out so if things don’t ring true for you, don’t give him the benefit of the doubt just do a little digging to find out for sure.
It’s all about the visual
If you have been getting messages from somebody who sounds great but does not have a photograph, think about it logically. Who in this day and age do not have a camera or phone to take a picture? The first thing that you should do when you join a dating website is to upload a photograph and if he doesn’t have one, alarm bells should be ringing. Ask to see a photo and if he comes up with excuses then he probably doesn’t look like what he’s saying he does. On the other end of the scale, if his picture is absolutely beautiful and he looks surprisingly like a model – it is possible that he just got a photograph from the internet to pretend to be him. Ask to see him on webcam, the live picture of his face never lies and if he is genuine it will give you a better chance to get to know each other.
Please keep in mind that these are not foolproof ways to see if a man is lying to you online. His stories could be so genuine, that you can’t help but believe them. The first time that you meet somebody that you have met online make sure to do it in a public place and if he isn’t what he’s said he is, get out!