Online dating personals sites have sprouted like mushrooms all over the World Wide Web, replacing the newspaper-based personals ads to keep up with the changing times. Created especially for those professionals who are almost cooped up in their offices (with only their computers to keep them company), online dating sites seems like a good (and convenient) idea to meet people. We have heard success stories of couples who met through online dating personals sites. If stories like that exist, then there is a chance that you can find your own happiness in online dating sites, too.
So my answer to this question is yes, you can find happiness on using online dating personals. However, being an unorthodox way of meeting people to date (as opposed to the usual meeting of the Love Of Your Life through relatives, school, parties, work, and the like), you might be having doubts about giving online dating a try. So in order for you to find happiness using this alternative means of looking for The One, let me clear your doubts by discussing the most common reasons why people do not want to try online dating, and why you should not think this way.
“Everyone who is doing online dating lies”
Photographs replace human contact in online dating sites. E-mail and message correspondence replace voice interaction. You get to know someone by reading his profile. Because of the lack of human contact, online daters can tweak their personal information a bit, making them more appealing to others. Lying about one’s age is a common lie in online dates, aside from lying about their weight and height to get more users to be interested. But those are just minor lies. Majority of online daters limit their deception to those I have previously mentioned, for fear that they might meet their match and have the chance blown away because of so many lies.
“People will think I am desperate if I do the online dating”
Why would you be? Online dating is not a crime. For the narrow-minded, online dating is comparable to desperation. For me, that is a load of bull.
For the purposes of argument, let us say that you would rather meet someone in a bar than do online dating. You go to a bar with your friends wearing a sexy little number, in the hope that you will meet someone tonight. You then find this cute stranger checking you out from across the bar, and after some minutes of sexual innuendos, he finds the guts to sit beside you and start talking.
This is just the same with online dating. The only benefit with the former is seeing the person up close. But think of it this way: in a bar, you wear something skimpy and uncomfortable (and not at all how you usually dress) just to impress some random guy. Is it also not equivalent to desperation? And I am sure that the guys you will usually meet in bars are not looking for the love of their lives, but someone who he can only take to bed tonight.
“I don’t want to be called a loser for doing online dating”
This is another common fear of those who have not experienced the joys of online dating. Again, online dating is not for the desperate or for losers. It is just another avenue to meet someone, like any other means where you can form new relationships. It is probably the most convenient, time-saving way of finding someone new. Let me put it this way: instead of checking out three to ten (if you are lucky) guys at a bar, you can have access to hundreds (or even thousands) of guys in online dating sites, just with a click of the mouse. You can find your match even when you are in a ratty outfit, while blow drying your hair, all in the comforts of your home. You are not a loser if you do online dating. You are just sensible and prefer to meet new people the more practical way.
Clearing your doubts about making your own online dating personals, I am pretty sure that you are on your way to finding happiness. You just have to be honest with what you want, keep an open mind, and I am certain that happiness will come smiling at you.