Are you one of those guys who are constantly trying their luck finding a woman in an online dating website but with not much success? Maybe you’re just making mistakes on how to approach them which is why, instead of attracting them you scare them off. Men have been using online dating services because the possibilities of finding a partner are limitless. However, because of the thousands of men using these sites, it has become somewhat of a battleground wherein the “gladiators” are buying for the attention of the audience. As a result, some men they tend to make things common and yes, repeating mistakes in order for them to stand out among others.
To give you a heads up in online dating, here are the 3 mistakes that you should avoid:
Overloading your profile page with too much information about yourself
Some men will put anything they can on their profile page just to stand out among the rest of the pack. This is the long, boring and too much “about me”. Stop being a narcissist by keeping your information as brief and as simple as possible. If you put in a lot of words in your personal description, a woman might think that you’re self-centered, uninteresting and sometimes “too desperate”. Only include important information like, your name, hobbies and interest and your work. There is no need to put in your favorite color, complete family background, address and any personal information. Focus on putting in necessary information that will help you formally introduce yourself when a woman reads it. Don’t forget to be honest with all of the information you put in there.
Use your best photos but make sure it’s not inappropriate
In an online dating site, pictures are a great way to make a good first impression; to do that the pictures in your profile page should be recent and decent. Use your most recent pictures and not the ones taken 15 years ago wherein you were 20 pounds lighter.
If you put in pictures like you’re wearing nothing but shorts and showing off your body in front of a mirror, it is not a great way to attract women, have some sense of decency. Also there is no need to post pictures wherein you are working out, holding a ton of money, or you are past out drunk with your friends. These pictures will only give her the impression that you are a douche bag. Post pictures where you show yourself as good-looking, handsome, clean and decent-looking.
Failure to communicate “properly”
Now that you have found the woman that caught your fancy and you want her to notice you too, flooding her Inbox with compliments on how beautiful she is and telling her that she is your dream girl is not the way to go. You will sound like a stalker or even a creep. Sure, all women like to be complimented but no one likes to be complimented by a total stranger. Introduce yourself first, and once you are well acquainted with each other, then you can give her a nice little compliment.
When finally you got her interest going for you, it is important to keep it that way. Some men fail in keeping a woman interested, which is a big turn off. Read her profile thoroughly, and pick out a topic to talk about. Ask “smart” questions and listen to what she is going to say, let her know that you are really interested in getting to know her. Never start a generic conversation, for example “hi” or “hello” without following it up with a good topic. But remember not to discuss too personal subjects or both of you will soon feel awkward. Be patient, when you are both able to trust each other then you can talk about almost anything. Strike the iron while it’s hot. Make your move and start a fun conversation with the help of your sense of humor and great personality.
Before signing in an online dating service always remember to avoid these 3 common mistakes that men do and you will have a great advantage among the competition. Remember that the competition is tough but even so, it is still important to just be yourself and play it fair. Never act desperate even when you have already found the woman that you like. Desperate men seem to have this sense of bad aura; women just can tell! Better yet, take time to know these women that you meet online. Don’t get carried away instantly by their beauty, musings and sweet nothings; they just might turn out to be frauds. Your safety should be your first priority.