If it is your first time on online personals, it’s likely that you have great expectations like finally meeting the man of your dreams. Not to sound desperate but some of your friends must have told you already that you shouldn’t keep your expectations high – at least not in an online personals site. Still you went ahead and allowed “fate” to make something out of your intentions. How hopelessly romantic of you! Know that your friends are only concerned about you; online personals are not for the weak of hearts, figuratively and literally speaking that is. There are just so many heart breakers hidden behind a handsome face and too-polished profile. And if you’re not too careful you’re going to burn!
So, to save yourself from trouble, try mastering these signs to know if your potential guy is a player.
He’s avoiding giving you his home and office number
Sooner or later, you’ll arrive at the phone call stage simply because chat and instant messaging isn’t enough for both of you anymore. If he seems to be giving you countless alibis so he won’t directly give you his home or office number then that’s one clear sign he’s a player. He wouldn’t mind giving you his cell phone number because he has this all the time and there’s no chance for you to talk to anyone in his office or home.
He disappears and re-appears when you’re chatting online
Two things are the clearest reasons for this: one, he is multi-chatting with other women online and two, a woman he’s expecting to come over has arrived and he didn’t have time to say bye-bye to you. Strange is that you try to rationalize this by saying he could be doing something else at home and that you should be understanding of that; well, maybe . . . Until he accidentally mixed up your conversation with someone else.
They seem to have strange clockwork
After both of you have developed your “regular” online schedule, you suddenly notice that in between your schedule he would have something important to do that he had to “go”. And like clockwork this “something important” happens at the same time each time, on the dot! Hmm … sounds like he needs to chat or call someone or go somewhere at this time. And if you try to make him explain, he’ll simply give you a run around.
Your name is not Cindy or Jane
Duh! This is a dead giveaway that if you failed to get it then you’re bound to be manipulated very, very soon. This is what happens when he’s multi-chatting with countless women. Give the guy a break; it’s hard to remember all the details of each woman’s conversation. Please understand.
Then he disappears again
After mistakenly calling you by another name, he bombards you with compliments and “next level” promises; then out of the blue he disappears again. How could this be? That’s very easy to figure out actually, he’s got a new girl to pour his sweet nothings out. Maybe that one is a better sexual prospect than you. But don’t worry, just him a couple of weeks and he’ll come bugging you again. Just as all players do.
Always insists on online sex
Oh boy, it can’t get any worse than this. He says he finds you interestingly hot and that he can’t wait to see you personally, yet wouldn’t find time to make this happen. Instead he satisfies his fantasy of you via online sex in any way. How pathetic! This goes for you too if you if you are falling for this ploy.
Are you convinced yet that you’re probably wasting time with a player? If not, then do this quick exercise, place your hand against your chest and see how that heart pumps. Thumping fast? That’s because you’re becoming angry at him. Don’t ignore that; that feeling wouldn’t be there for no reason so be wise, lady!
Stop wasting your time with guys like these; stop thinking you can change them either. Unlike you, these guys know exactly what they want and are getting it through you (and through other girls). If he was able to keep from finding out and he enjoyed all the benefits of his actions, then why expect him to change (at least for you)? If you like to play his game and see where this will lead you, then go right ahead and jump at your own risk. But if you respect yourself enough then there’s really no reason for you not to think there’s a better guy out there more worthy of your time and trust.