Online dating is a great way to meet different people and hopefully even find love. While there are genuine people out there, you also need to be on the lookout for those who aren’t what they appear to be or just jerks in general. Don’t let this put you off, online dating is fun! Simply look for red flags on online dating profiles so that you can sort out the ones not to date from those with potential.
The same line for everyone that he messages
If you receive a message from a man where it sounds strangely like he is applying for a job, it is likely that he has copied and pasted this message from woman to woman. If a guy has really read your profile and is messaging you individually, it should contain something a little more individual on there that he has got from your profile and is interested in. Avoid messages that sound too generic, it’s likely that he isn’t much of a catch because he is pretty much messaging every female on the website!
A picture that doesn’t let you see the true him
If a man’s description of himself does not match the picture on the screen, this is a big red flag. Likewise if the photo is at a very odd angle or photo-shopped within an inch of its life, he is probably trying to make you think he is better looking than what he actually is. There is nothing wrong with being average looking but if he makes himself out to be much better looking than what he is, he probably lies about a lot of stuff.
Not wanting to take things further
If you have been getting on really well with someone for a while during messaging but he doesn’t want to take things further, this could be a sign that all is not as it seems. The natural next step after messaging for a while and building a connection is seeing each other on webcam, phone calls and even meeting face to face. Even more of a red flag is if he arranges to do these things with you and then comes up with elaborate excuses to cancel.
Unreal expectations of a woman
Read his profile, if he sounds thoroughly demanding and like a downright jerk – he probably is. If he constantly points out how awesome he is in his profile description and then has a huge list of qualities that a woman must have for him to consider dating them, he’s bad news. It’s funny though, the men who act like this on their profile will usually message you and be complimentary and the complete opposite of what you have read. These are the type of man however that goes on to become very controlling and manipulative when in a relationship.
Too perfect usually equals liar
If you have written a few words about your perfect man on your profile and he messages you matching up all these points, this might be a red flag. He could in fact be your soul mate so give him a chance before you write him off. If he continues to be too perfect, too complimentary, too rich and too good looking. Then there are a few questions that you need to ask yourself, like why is he single? If he is what he says, he should be living the high life with a beautiful wife not messaging strangers on dating websites. If he is a liar, he will probably trip himself up somewhere down the line. Liars constantly contradict themselves because they tell so many fabrications that they even confuse themselves sooner or later.
You should be able to spot the losers from the potential lovers by following these 5 tips. Generally just try and trust your own instincts based on the guys profile mixed with what he is telling you and any other information that you can find on him. So many people have found love online so be as open minded as possible, don’t try and find red flags with men unless there are things that actually stand out to you. Be sure to get to know him however before you arrange to meet up face to face.